You have this romantic vision of you and your partner enjoying a weekend getaway at a luxurious spa. Your traveling as a couple is nothing but rose petals flying around and sweet love in the air. Everything is so perfect. And then when you actually get there you are sitting in a hot tub yelling at each other wondering what went wrong.
Conflicts are unavoidable when you deal with people. Conflicts growing into massive fights on the other hand can be avoided.
When you deal with other people things are always little tricky. Your partner isn’t perfect and neither are you. Things dont always go perfectly. Being aware of this is very important when you are traveling as a couple. Arising conflicts wont then take you totally over and make you miserable.
Here’s a few tips we collected to help you to have the best possible time together on your vacation:
1. GIVE UP THE FANTASIES
The first tip is a little counter intuitive. To actually have a nice romantic holiday you have to give up your fantasies about it.
When conflicts arise they wont have the ability to ruin your holiday if they are accepted as part of life. Then there’s a possibility for true intimacy and full vivid experiences of life.
Nothing wrong with dreaming and fantasizing but if there’s no room left for the real life you are just setting yourself up for disappointment. Resistance is what fuels conflicts into fights. Without resistance everything can be solved through open communication and some compromising.
2. TALK BEFOREHAND ABOUT YOUR EXPECTATIONS
This is extremely important. If you go on a holiday thinking you are going to spend your days sightseeing but your partner is thinking that you’re gonna hang around in the hotel pool til the evening things are gonna crash for sure.
Sit down before you leave and spend some time on telling each other what you wish you’re gonna do and experience. This will save you lots of unnecessary arguing. And helps you to get on to the same page.
3. MAKE PLANS TOGETHER AND COMPROMISE
After communicating about your expectations take some time to make plans together. Of course minute schedule is not fun when you’re on a holiday but some guidelines could be helpful.
Make sure you do stuff that satisfies both of you and compromise on some things. On one day you can go sightseeing early and the other day hang out by the pool.
Also make both of your responsibilities clear. Making a clear division of work will save you lots of time and effort.
4. EAT AND SLEEP PROPERLY
This may sound obvious but on a holiday routines tend to fly out of the window. Eating properly and getting enough sleep will help you to get the most out of your holiday, plus it will keep your temper calmer.
If you’re hungry and tired it will be difficult to fully enjoy your time away and you’ll be triggered more easily. Basic needs are the same regardless where you’re located. So take good care of your body and it will take good care of you.
5: TRAVELING AS A COUPLE DOESN’T MEAN YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE ANY ALONE TIME
Go on a walk alone. Let your partner sleep late if he or she wants to. Some alone time and space won’t ruin your romantic getaway. We all need a little space from time to time.
It’s a mere illusion that when you’re on a holiday together you have to be next to each other 24/7. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying some special time with just you and your own thoughts. It will make your time with your partner better too.
6. BRING SOME HUMOUR IN TO THE MIX
When something goes awfully wrong you really have three options. To get angry, start crying or start laughing. In some cases you will do all of these. Probably in the mentioned order too.
Try to find the funny side of things. It will transform the most annoying event in to something actually entertaining.
This has a lot to do with the tip number one. Nothing ever goes exactly like we plan but you don’t have to let it ruin your holiday. It won’t do that unless you cling to the mishap.
Mishaps are part of life and sometimes they actually lead in to something even better that you had in mind. So breath in, breath out and let go as soon as you can. Life works like magic if you just let it.
7. YOU ARE A TEAM
Thinking the two of you as a team will help you get in to the us – state of mind. Remember that you are on the same side and both of you want to have an amazing time together. All conflicts come from misunderstandings so again, open communication is the key to success.
Talk about what would be the most fun and beneficial for you both. Root for your team whenever possible. Be proud of your team and all the wonderful moments you are able to create together.
8. BE PRESENT
Being present helps you to handle your negative emotions also. Then they wont take you over so easily. So leave your phone to your room, feel your feet on the ground and just try to enjoy the moment.
Do some yoga or meditation. Really see and hear your surroundings. This will not only help you to be in better mood, it will also help you to get the most out from your time away.
9. IF YOU GET INTO A FIGHT GET OVER IT AS SOON AS POSSIBLE
Forgiveness asks for a lot of character. But more often than not it is more relieving for the forgiver than the forgiven.
So if you have a fight or your partner behaves in some way you dont like, atleast try to bring some understanding and compassion there. For your own sake. There’s nothing fun for you to hang on to the feelings of anger and resentment.
10. SIT BACK AND ENJOY
You deserve a nice, loving and beautiful time together. Don’t let your egos ruin that.
Traveling as a couple is different and more demanding in some ways than traveling alone. But on the other hand, there’s nothing better than being able to share all the amazing experiences with your loved one. So use these tips to make your holiday as relaxing, special and memorable as possible.